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Face shape, face shape, face shape
I can't say it often enough.
The reason choosing a hair style from a magazine doesn't work is because you
are looking at a hairstyle that was designed for a face shape different from your
own. Form and textureAre you trying to make a hairstyle do things that it just naturally won't do? It is very common for women to try hairstyles for years that are not right for their hair. Why fight against your hair? Working with it will yield much better results. See my tips on form and texture. You don’t really know yourself!Do you remember the first time you heard yourself on an audio recording? That voice didn't sound like you, did it? A similar distortion happens when you look into the mirror. You can't see yourself as others see you. Your best friend knows what you really look like—you should depend on her opinion. I test this theory in my classes and never fail to demonstrate the distorted image we each carry of ourselves. The bottom line is, you do not see the real image when you look into the mirror—you need to get an objective outside opinion. Our internal tape recorderOur sensory acuity antenna is constantly
on alert for reactions about who we are and how we look. Our memory stores any
reaction or feedback regarding our looks. This includes both positive and
negative reactions. We pick up the slightest of
non-verbal cues. Over your lifetime, you have stored millions of bits of
information about how you look, based on your interpretation of the reactions of
others. Much of it is contradictory, often misread and just plain wrong. Our hairstyle biasesThat's right, we all have hair style biases. Often I hear a woman tell me that she would never wear a certain hair style. When I ask her why, I get an answer like, "I just think that hair style looks terrible on me." This is almost always a hairstyle bias talking. Maybe in the fourth grade she had a run-in with "Betty the Bully" and Betty wore a similar hair style. Or the girl who stole her high school boyfriend or a rival at work, and the list could go on. From the time of that experience forward, she is likely to carry around in her brain a bias against that hair style. She won't consider it, even if it makes her look fabulous. You may have the wrong hair stylist!Maybe it's time to end a long running relationship that has run out of creativity and ideas for your hairstyles. You may have been sold on so many hair styles that didn't work, that you are left in a rut. To move forward and find what works for you, a new hairstylist may be exactly what you need. See how to choose a new hairstylist.
You're listening to the wrong people!Mainly yourself . . . remember you do not see the real "you in the mirror". If you are determined to look your best and can't order a hairstyle makeover, what should you do? Seek input on new hair styles from others. However, when you do, leave out your own opinion, or you will not get honest feedback. Don't pre-frame others by telling them what you like and dislike before hearing what they like. Then, suppress the part of you that judges, and just LISTEN! You will learn things about your hair that you have never even considered. Who should you listen to?
Who you should not listen to!
Questions you should ask them!
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